No...

• queer*
• 1st-generation Canadian
• happy with my Canadian upbringing
• don't believe that my way is the only right way
• don't blame everyone for my trauma
• don't think everyone is responsible for me

*I've been asked, "What's the difference between 'queer' and 'gay'?

Ever since some influential members of the transgender community have taken it upon themselves to represent the rest of the lgb+ communities, the term 'gay' has changed from a sexual orientation involving people with the same sex, to now include people of the same gender. Thus anyone can be gay, as long as both partners identify as having the same gender (regardless of their sex).

Queer is a gender: genderqueer. (just like trans is transgender) It's more particular, and what I most identify as, being a gay bottom. In my society, if I were to say that I'm gay, most would assume that I play the "man's role" in the gay relationship (top), and that I want something feminine. This is not true. Although I'm fine with identifying as a man (I look masculine), in a gay relationship I play the "female's role" (bottom, as well as identify with female feelings). Being queer allows me to keep my "femininity". I'm comfortable identifying as and recognize that I am queer. My preferred pronouns are thon/thons.